Choosing personal responsibility requires facing our demons and evaluating our short comings. This practice is a process of self-exploration to find awareness and then often times facing our emotions and healing ourselves which leads to the need to forgive and accept ourselves. This is not an easy practice and if we aren’t connected to our mission or purpose in life, it’s hard to find a reason to do this work. It takes a lot of strength to explore our belief systems and forgive ourselves.
What kind of reasoning exists to embrace challenges instead of circumventing, dreading or avoiding them? Another mindset shift here: Becoming self-aware to a degree where you have an conscious presence regarding what is important to you at a deep level. Imagine that we all have a unique purpose on this planet and in order to identify what this is, we must be constantly remember who we are and what is important to us.
What is personal responsibility?
- Responsibility = Response + Ability. In other words, the ability to respond.
- Growth mindset
- Developing and deepening personal relationship with intuition
- Not expecting others to solve your problems for you
- Staying present in your experiences
Responsibility= the ability to respond.
For some reason, the term “responsibility” has been misrepresented and misunderstood as a burden, or a component of adulthood that is to be dreaded in a sense. I offer an alternative perspective that will show you why responsibility is a gift and how you can use this gift. Let’s begin by breaking the word responsibility into two sections so it’s easy to see. Response-ability, i.e. the ability to respond. Can we agree that an ability can be considered a skill? Can we agree that skills can be learned? Let’s entertain this interpretation of response-ability to uncover the benefits of improving this skill.
Many have heard of a growth mindset vs. a fixed mindset. Another term is a responsible mindset vs. a victim mindset. Either refer to the same thing. We must adopt a belief that life is happening for us, not to us. The reason this is helpful is because we can stop seeing ourselves as a victim and stay focused on solutions and growth. Have you ever wondered “why is this happening to me?” Well, that’s
Not expecting others to solve your problems for you.
We believe that our dreams lie on the other side of our fears. So instead of turning away from our fears, we must seek them out and go towards them. Challenges in our life are meant to shape us into the people we become. We often times have to adjust our beliefs about ourselves in order to reach our goals. Embracing challenges instead of avoiding them is a very powerful perspective that is capable of rapidly accelerating your success. If you are aware of your goals, you can take time to examine the fears around them, and just like that, you have your new to-do list!
Developing and deepening personal relationship with intuition
We are each on a unique journey and have the responsibility to explore what the meaning and purpose of it might be. This is a highly personal process and sometimes the answers aren’t very clear. This s based on a philosophy that individuals bring unique assets to co-create together and that people should be celebrated for their strengths, instead of people being made into replicas of one another. I believe in using our intuition as a tool to determine if we are on the right path as well as a tool that helps us sense danger or trouble. This is another aspect of becoming familiar with the emotional range, learning to recognize the feelings in our bodies as communication instead of passing off feelings as something that needs to be medicated or ignoring it.
Staying present in your experiences
This ties into emotional awareness by having the confidence to stay present by knowing you are clear about who you are, and how you feel and you use these skills to create the values which are important to you through your experiences. This connects with a growth mindset because we have a responsibility to co-create our experiences and we can not expect to progress towards our goals if we don’t take an active role in our relationships. “Know the difference between a catastrophe and an inconvenience, that it is not a catastrophe, but just an unpleasantness, is part of coming into your own, part of waking up.” -Bruce Lee.
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